HAIRRR and STYLLLEEE

Okay, so I cut my hair in a scene style in June, maybe July. My mom hates it, but everyone else likes it. I went to a new school this year where I knew some people when I wasnt "scene", and the boys say i was hotter before, so i wore "regular" clothes and makeup for a week. But it didnt feel right, but i kindof dont want to be a loser and have no one like me. What the eff should i do? And also I've dyed my hair 16 times. Its starting to dry up and fall out, so any suggestions on good repairing shampoo and conditoner???